I’ve come to the conclusion, slowly, that i’m spoilt. Yes in an ‘i always i got what i want way’ but also in love.
For all of my 23 years, i’ve watched my parents together. The way they interact and support eachother. Holding hands as they walk down the street and paying eachother complements. They are eachothers best friends.
The upshot of this is that i expect this from my relationships as well.
Don’t get me wrong, of course everyone wants to be treated well and have a loving relationship, but even some of the best marriages aren’t all like this.
I look for my partners to be supportive and loving and the other half of me. Not becasue i’m not a complete person but becasue i want someone to lean on and who is the carrots to my peas.
In all honesty, i wouldn’t settle for less. I wouldn’t sit at home while my man went out drinking every night, leaving me to look after the home and the kids. I wouldn’t be responsible for everything in the home and i certainly wouldn’t tolerate wandering eyes, hands, mouths or anything.
Now becasue of my home and family life and from speaking to friends and partners, i’ve come to think that possibly this is more of a distorted view than i think. For me it is normal… but for the majority of people it isn’t. They come from broken homes, arguing, divorces, settling for what you have and putting up with something you might not like.
Maybe this is more realistic, and my expectations are just a fairytale?